by Derek Ayre Acc Hyp. MCH(UK)
In my work as a therapist, I often come across clients who
have fear of success. And what makes this condition worse, is that it is
nearly always concealed from conscious awareness.
This condition is
linked with fear of death/loss, which in turn is linked with the fear of the
unknown, which is linked with the fear of change. And this can quite easily
be reversed.
Fear of change = fear of the unknown = fear of death/loss.
As the subconscious mind does not reason, these fears are all
considered to be one and the same.
If we look at eastern philosophy,
the reality of death is embraced in their meditative disciplines. For
instance, in Zen, the student is encouraged to look at the cycle of birth and
death and transcend his fear of it. Simply put, what is
eventually realized, is that each moment of our experience dies to the
next as it is being born, and this realization may lead to
the emancipation of the student's mind from fear of death/loss, change, or
the unknown.
The main purpose of our life, whether we are aware of it or
not, is to make a positive difference. One of the ways in which westerners
makes a difference is with money. The problem is that there is so much taboo
surrounding the subject, that many have become really "hung-up" over it. This
is not due to the fact that money exists, but due to our relationship with
it.
If I was to ask someone, "do you want money?" The reply may
be "Yes." If I then was to ask "why?" A reply may be, "Because I like
it?"
Does that sound wrong to you? Honestly?
If it does sound even
slightly wrong, it would probably be because of past conditioning and by
merely acknowledging it, you would be on the path to liberating yourself from
feeling that its wrong to like or want money. I am not talking about
secretly inside your own mind, but outwardly feeling free to ask for it
in your dealings with others.
So the first step to releasing any
taboos we may have regarding money is to learn to open up to them. Discussing
them freely with others is a great way to do this, but often
somewhat embarrassing.
The next problem that generally comes into this
weird relationship we have with money is the fear of loss. To
our detriment, we often hold on to every cent and the old adage "you've
got to speculate to accumulate" is ignored. To the subconscious loss = death,
and we have a strong inclination to minimize all risk, but this is something
often taken to the extreme.
The truth is that sometimes we will win,
sometimes we will lose and that is a fact of life.
Financially
speaking, what is really wanted and needed here is to look at what's at
stake. If we were to lose as a result of the risk we are taking, will it
really be so bad? But on the other hand, if we were to win... So a risk is
nearly always needed especially in business.
The saying "everybody
loves a winner" drags up the opposite, "everybody hates a loser" and that is
what many of us want to avoid. If this is particularly strong in our minds
and imagination, we never get to take the risks necessary to win.
What
I am saying here is that you cannot create something without also creating
its opposite. In your experience, you create the universe around you. I know
it's already there, but you create your *experience* of it. So if you create
light, you cannot avoid creating dark. Because no dark, no light. Otherwise,
how would you know it was light?
So to create a fear of poverty is to
also to create a fear of wealth. Fear of loss - fear of gain. So, when it
comes to wealth creation, there is a ton of skepticism because of the
risks, because of the fear of loss, because of the fear of being "hated as
a loser". It's not always about losing the actual cash as people tend to
waste more on frivolous things.
So what can be done about
this?
The way to deal with any fear is to face it. But only face it
to the degree that you are willing to do so in the moment of now, as you
cannot face anything without being willing to do so. And the experience of
willingness is either there or not. It cannot be forced. This is because
willingness cannot be defined. One day you could be unwilling to face a
dilemma, the next you can find yourself willing to deal with what you
consider to be your worst nightmare.
So the final solution to your
relationship with money is to become aware of all your resistances,
observe them allowing your awareness to analyze any barriers that may be
there, then act - when you are willing.
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